I’m assuming that this means – What do we cherish about church ?

Cherish is not an easy word.  We don;t tend to use it in everyday speech.  It’s in the anglican wedding service.  ‘To love and to cherish,’ but I can’t think of other contexts where it is regularly used.

I knew a vicar once who had a major falling out with his congregation.  One of the church members said to me – ‘One of the problems with …. is that he doesn’t cherish us, and he won’t let us cherish him.’  I knew what he meant.  The vicar in question was quite strident in his leadership style, and was someone it was quite hard to get alongside.

David Cassidy had a hit a long long time ago with the song ‘Cherish’.  

Cherish is the word I use to describe
All the feeling that I have
Hiding here for you inside
You don’t know how many times
I wished that I had told you …

As I think about the word cherish, it seems to be to do with relationships above all.  So as far as church goes, I cherish the friendships that we have made there.  The people who have cared for us.  The people who have made themselves vulnerable to us, so allowing us to love and care for them.

Maybe I’ll let Kool and the Gang have the last word today.

Let’s cherish every moment we have been given
The time is passing by …

Cherish the love we have, we should cherish the life we live
Cherish the love, cherish the life, cherish the love.

Kool and the Gang – Cherish

Today’s question is – why do we find ourselves at St Paul and St Stephen, Gloucester.

The answer to this goes back at least to 2012.  In March 2012, I had an interview for a job in Gloucester.  I felt excited about the job, but a little daunted.  I didn’t have the inner city experience that one of the other candidates had, so I was not completely confident.

After the interview my wife and I met up for a coffee in town.  We were mulling over how we felt about the job, and about Gloucester.  I was pretty sure that I would take the job if I was offered it, but there was a little bit of doubt at the back of my mind.  I said “what we need is a white van with a sign on the side to come round that corner.”  Literally at that very moment, a white van went by, and the sign on the side said “Evans Preservation!”

We looked at each other and though – what does that mean.  It could be that we would be preserved by not getting the job, or that we would get the job and it would be OK.  Whatever it meant, we felt that God was looking after us.

As it happened, I didn’t get the job. I came a ‘close second.’  (I did get another job at a church in Hertfordshire very soon after, but that’s another story).

Anyway … the whole point of telling this story is to say that although I didn’t get the job in Gloucester, we felt an affinity for the city as we wandered round on the day of my interview.  So when I was coming up to retirement age a few years afterwards, we remembered how much we had felt drawn to the city, and started looking for houses in Gloucester. (How we found the house is also another story).

So here we were, in 2018.  We moved in on May 15th, and straightaway started thinking about church, and where we would worship.  Although not brought up in the Church of England, we had been worshipping in C of E churches for 30+ years, and I had been a vicar for 20+ of those!  So we trawled round the Anglican churches within a mile or so of our house to see what they were like.

Being a city, there were quite a few to choose from – in all we visited 5 plus the cathedral.  None of them actually felt like ‘home’ which made it hard to decide.  There were three within a 20 minute walk of our house, so any of them might have worked from a practical point of view.

On Sunday 5th August, we were at the church closest to home- St Paul and St Stephen. As the one closest to home, we had been there a few times.  Ruth, the vicar was talking about the Gospel reading in John chapter 6.  Jesus had done the miracle with bread and fish and fed a crowd of people, but still they didn’t seem to get him and his mission.  They come looking for him and asking for a sign.  So he said to them ‘What have I just done for you ?  And what MORE do you want ?’

At that moment we both independently thought that this was God speaking to us.  It was as though God was saying – ‘Look at what I have done for you.  You’re looking for a sign to help you decide where to worship. You wanted to live near a city centre, and you’re 15 minutes walk away.  You wanted to live in a Victorian semi, and that’s what you got!  You wanted to be able to walk everywhere and you’ve got a doctor’s surgery just round the corner.  There’s a garage round another corner 2 minutes walk away.  So you can get your health problems seen to, and you can get the car fixed without going more than a couple of hundred yards. What more do you want ?  Why are you looking for a sign ? WHY WOULD I NOT ALSO GIVE YOU A CHURCH ON YOUR DOORSTEP ?!

And logically that was absolutely true.  Going to this church would give us the opportunity to worship right in the heart of our community, which we have done for the last 20+ years.  So we took this as a sign from God that this was where God wanted us.  Looking back on the last two years, we know that it has been the right decision.  That’s not to say it’s always been easy.  Apart from anything esle it’s hard going from being the vicar to being a member of a congregation.  As a vicar, when you move to a new church, everyone knows who you are – you have a ready made community, and you’re immediately a part of that community, as well as being the vicar.

As newly retired people, we came to St Paul and St Stephen almost anonymously.  No one knew us, no one knew all the things we had experienced in life and in church life.  So in some ways it’s been hard.  But that Sunday in August nearly two years ago reminds us that we had a definite call to this parish, and so we continue to seek God day by day as we live and serve in this community.

We’ve been asked at our church to think about some questions over the next few days.  Today’s question is “What is the spiritual bread that you need each day ?”

The word ‘spiritual’ is a tricky one. It can mean different things to different people.  I remember once being on a visit to a local Catholic Church when I was training for ordination. The priest was showing us round, and then sat us down. He asked ‘What is the opposite of spiritual ?’ – there was a pause. We guessed that there was just one right answer to this question.  Who would be brave enough to answer?  Eventually someone said ‘Physical ?’  The priest might have laughed, or cried, or got angry, I can’t remember.  He very simply told us – the opposite of spiritual is unspiritual.  Oh. Light bulbs go on.

That’s all a bit off topic when thinking of the answer to today’s question.  But it might help.

Another memory I have is reading something by Eugene Peterson, who was very careful with the words spiritual and spirituality.  The light that he shed on the word spirituality was this: Christian  Spirituality has to do with what God is doing.  Now that I like.

So when I think about what spiritual bread I need, I want to set it within another question – How might God be at work in me and through me today.

So it’s not just about having my own ‘worship time with God’, important as that is.  Questions to do with community and mission also appear.  Do you see what’s happened ? Worship, Community, Mission – in that order. It’s so seductive.

So the question that Ruth, our vicar asked us has left me asking other questions.  How might mission and community be a daily part of what God is doing in me and through me, as well as the personal aspect of scripture reading and prayer.  Because experiencing mission and community as a daily part of life will surely feed me as well as my own personal reading and prayer.

I had better say a little about that.  My daily discipline has been pretty spasmodic a lot of the time.  It tended to be OK when I was working as a vicar, thank God. But on holiday for example, I couldn’t make it work.

I also get bored with doing the same thing all the time, so every so often I have to change to keep it fresh.  At the moment, I’m using one reading from the book of Acts, a part of a psalm, and a few verses from John’s Gospel.  I keep a journal which helps me to focus.  Writing stuff down is important for me.

I find the psalms are pretty vital. They cover the whole range of human need and emotion.  They make it Ok for example to be angry with God, and to ask God hard questions.

I look for prayers from different places to get me started. Here’s one that I have slightly adapted – it’s part of a prayer from the Iona Community.

For your love, strong and challenging,
which has called us to risk for you,
asked for the best in us,
covered the worst in us,
and shown us how to live,
how to love,
how to serve,
We give you thanks.

Grace and peace everyone.  Another question tomorrow,